Hello Dedicated Readers,
I have some important news for you. I have put out this newsletter for a little over 2 years. It has been a labor of love. However, recently it has become more labor than love. Coincidentally, I’m also redesigning my website and my brand. Unfortunately, this newsletter will no longer serve this new iteration of my professional life. The next issue of this newsletter will be the last one that I will publish.
As most of you know, I have been a professional coach for the past twenty-five years. I’ve met most of you via our work together at CTI. Coaching is still my favorite profession and coaching coaches is my passion. However, recently I’ve realized that my true passion is coaching coaches on the craft of coaching. When most coaches think of hiring a coach, they usually think of someone who will help them expand their business. This type of coaching is important and necessary. However, what I’ve noticed over the years is that most coaches would benefit from someone coaching them on their actual coaching. It’s one thing to learn how to market your business but if you want to have a consistently thriving practice, mastery is necessary. I love to work with coaches on deepening their learning and attaining mastery. Mastery consists of not only understanding your client but also understanding yourself and how you are impacting your client.
Many years ago, one my favorite teachers told me, “It’s not that masters don’t make mistakes. They do. They just know how to fix them faster!” Despite our best intentions, we all make mistakes, get into bad habits, go unconscious at times. I know this from my own experience. I know that I wouldn’t be the master coach I am today without the continued support and training of all the coaches that I have hired over the years. If you are wanting to deepen your learning, get supervision on your coaching and become the best coach you can be, let’s have a conversation and see how we can make that happen.
Despite the fact that I will no longer be writing this newsletter, I do want to maintain contact with all of you. I have some ideas for the future that will center on helping coaches become masterful. I will be designing a new way to stay in touch that will be focused on the practice of coaching. I’ll keep you posted.
Many of us have been physically isolating for almost two months. Some people have enjoyed the break from their fellow humans, others are desperately missing their friends and family. Still others can’t wait to escape the 24/7 constant attentions and irritations of their loved ones. No matter which situation you find yourself in, we all crave some level of human connection. As interdependent social beings, we need others. In this audio program, Dr. Vivek Murthy discusses loneliness and the physical and emotional toll it takes on us.
In the past two weeks, six people I know have died. Ironically, only one died of Covid-19. Numerous people are facing unprecedented amounts of grief. Unfortunately, it looks like the trend is going to continue for the foreseeable future. In “Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief,” Kessler gives readers a roadmap to remembering those who have died with more love than pain; he shows us how to move forward in a way that honors our loved ones. Kessler’s insight is both professional and intensely personal. His journey with grief began when, as a child, he witnessed a mass shooting at the same time his mother was dying. For most of his life, Kessler taught physicians, nurses, counselors, police, and first responders about end of life, trauma, and grief, as well as leading talks and retreats for those experiencing grief. Despite his knowledge, his life was upended by the sudden death of his twenty-one-year-old son.
How does the grief expert handle such a tragic loss? He knew he had to find a way through this unexpected, devastating loss, a way that would honor his son. That, ultimately, was the sixth state of grief—meaning. In Finding Meaning, Kessler shares the insights, collective wisdom, and powerful tools that will help those experiencing loss.”
(From the amazon.com synopsis)
“Life’s beauty is inseparable from its fragility,” says psychologist Susan David. In a special virtual conversation, she shares wisdom on how to build resilience, courage and joy in the midst of the coronavirus pandemic. Responding to listeners’ questions from across the globe, she offers ways to talk to your children about their emotions, keep focus during the crisis and help those working on the front lines.” (This virtual conversation is part of the TED Connects series, hosted by head of TED Chris Anderson and current affairs curator Whitney Pennington Rodgers. Recorded March 23, 2020)
Thanks for taking the time to read this newsletter. If any of these resources elicited any thoughts or feelings that you’d like to share with me, please contact me. If you like these emails, feel free to share them with other coaches, friends, clients and people walking the transformational path.
See you again in two weeks,