It’s time for another installment of my bi-weekly email series. In each issue, I share three resources that I have found to be helpful for myself and/or my clients. As a former librarian and a current voracious gatherer of helpful information, I’m constantly listening to podcasts, reading books and articles, and watching various videos that spark my interest.

Listening:

I just found out about this podcast a few days ago. As a word lover and usage aficionado, I’m thrilled to find out that someone else is as interested in words as I am. Celebrating the 100th episode of this podcast, Helen Zaltzman and others offer a parade of facts garnered over the past 100 episodes. Did you know that tennis used to be played with the palm of the hand instead of a racquet? That Americans and British people use the word “please”differently? Listen to this episode for all sorts of interesting tidbits on language and the experiences and things words describe.

Reading:

What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage (book cover)This book will change your life! Much as we might hate to admit it, human beings are animals. I don’t mean this in any deprecatory way. We are animals and thus we respond to animal training techniques. At the base of all of these techniques is positive reinforcement. Nagging never works on animals but positive reinforcement does. If you want some behavior to change you have to reinforce the good behavior that appears. Or create an alternative that precludes the bad behavior. This is an entertaining and enlightening read. I highly recommend it. Good for you for checking it out! I love your interest creating positive outcomes in this world.

Watching:

Kitty Genovese was brutally raped and murdered in Kew Garden Hills, NY in 1964. I paid special attention to this story not only because it was the root of the “bystander effect,” (a psychological explanation for the presence of others supposedly discouraging individuals from taking necessary and lifesaving action to help or save someone else) but also because I spent part of my early childhood growing up in that community. The New York Times published an article alleging that 38 witnesses saw or heard Genovese being attacked but did nothing to help her. It portrayed this Queens County community as heartless in the face of Genovese’s suffering and subsequent death. For decades, Kitty Geneovese’s name became synonymous with people who watched a crime but refused to get involved. However, upon further research, it turned out that the reporters covering the story lied. People did try to help. In our current era of “fake news,” it’s important to note that it is not only politicians who lie to promote their nefarious purposes. Newspapers can also lie for a dramatic story that will sell papers.

Thanks for taking the time to read this newsletter. If any of these resources elicited any thoughts or feelings that you’d like to share with me, please contact me. If you like these emails, feel free to share them with other coaches, friends, clients and people walking the transformational path.

See you again in two weeks,
Judy