It’s time for another installment of my bi-weekly email series. In each issue, I share three resources that I have found to be helpful for myself and/or my clients. As a former librarian and a current voracious gatherer of helpful information, I’m constantly listening to podcasts, reading books and articles, and watching various videos that spark my interest.

Listening:

Negotiation expert, Misha Glouberman explains how to talk to people about things. In other words, how to avoid the traps of debate when two or more people are trying to come together to make an agreement that is mutually supportive. “To put it simply, Misha is an expert on communication, and people pay him to help them communicate better. In our long, wide-ranging conversation, you’ll pick up a zillion nuggets of wisdom that will help you the next time you set out to negotiate, facilitate, or solve shared problems with people through conversation.”

Reading:

Belonging (book cover)Nora Krug’s “Belonging: A German Reckons with History and Home” is a graphic memoir which confronts the hidden truths of Krug’s family’s past in Nazi Germany. Nora, a German woman in her thirties comes to NYC and stays with a friend. One day while on the roof of her friend’s house she has a conversation with a woman who turns out to be a concentration camp survivor. That is the genesis of her desire to find out what her family did or didn’t do during the war. Krug is an engaging and honest writer. Her research uncovers all sorts of information that her parents didn’t know. Whether the information reveals disappointment, relief, or excitement, she opens herself to it all. I’ll not reveal what she found. Read the book for the answers. Although this book is about Nazi Germany, I couldn’t help but wonder whether a young American woman seventy years from now, might not be writing a similar account about wondering is she has relatives who participated in the Trump administration’s human rights violations at our southern border and the rise of white nationalism in the US today.

Watching:

Special,” created by, written by and starring Ryan O’Connell is special in a number of ways. A comedy, “Special” portrays some of the true life experiences of Ryan who has cerebral palsy and is gay. The shows are nuanced and complex, dealing directly with issues of disability, privilege, dependency, desire, and sexuality. The characters are engaging and have depth. From his mother who is learning to let go of her caretaking role, his colleague/new friend at work who supports his new found independence, to the guy he has a crush on, everyone provides an opportunity for Ryan to reveal his true situation (or not). Above all, the writing is real. The desire to not be seen as only one’s disability is balanced by the privilege Ryan has as a high functioning disabled person. O’Connell’s writing manages to bring these conflicts out into open by being entertaining. I ended up watching the whole season. Each show is only fourteen minutes long, time well spent.

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Thanks for taking the time to read this newsletter. If any of these resources elicited any thoughts or feelings that you’d like to share with me, please contact me. If you like these emails, feel free to share them with other coaches, friends, clients and people walking the transformational path.

See you again in two weeks,
Judy