It’s time for another installment of my newsletter series. In each issue, I share three resources that I have found to be helpful for myself and/or my clients. As a former librarian and a current voracious gatherer of helpful information, I’m constantly listening to podcasts, reading books and articles, and watching various videos that spark my interest.
I’ve listened to a lot of podcasts in the past few years but this episode of the Ezra Klein Show was the most interesting show that I’ve heard in a long time. I can’t stop recommending it to people so of course I am sharing it with you.
While ostensibly about misogyny, Ezra and his guest, Philosophy Professor Kate Manne, Ph.D. discuss all manner of things on the program. Manne’s thesis about misogyny is that it is a distinct force in our everyday social life. What is different about her stance is that she separates misogyny from the attitudes and intentions of individual misogynists. Rather than blaming individual men for being misogynists, she sees misogyny as the enforcement arm of patriarchy. While this description may sound very theoretical, the discussion is quite down to earth and accessible.
What is true for misogyny is also true for other forms of oppression such as white supremacy and other systems that “other” and oppress various groups in society. Unlike the other podcasts I’ve mentioned here, this interview is long. It runs at least two hours. However, it’s well worth the investment of time and I guarantee that as its title suggests, “you’ll never think of misogyny in the same way again.”
My niece Mollie West Duffy and her co-author, Liz Fosslien have just published a brand-new book about how to deal with emotions at work. The book just arrived at the bookstores yesterday and it is already getting great reviews. It’s called “No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work.” It’s both a serious approach to dealing with our natural feelings that arise at work while at the same time they have included numerous humorous and some poignant illustrations to further their points.
As an example, here is a cartoon that they recently did.
If you have feelings, you work and you enjoy illustrations, this book will definitely benefit you.
In light of all of the children separated from their parents at our southern border and the families that have been deliberately and painfully broken up, I think that it’s helpful to watch “Daughter From Danang” about a young Vietnamese child that was given up by her mother during the Viet Nam War in the hope of saving her. After a twenty-two year separation, both the daughter and the mother had high hopes for a wonderful reunion but the years and the different cultures continue to separate them. Their longed for reunion only pointed out their different hopes and the difficulty of bridging Vietnamese and American cultures. There is much that could have been learned from history if only the present administration had cared enough to not inflict the unbearable lifetime of pain that family separations cause.
Thanks for taking the time to read this newsletter. If any of these resources elicited any thoughts or feelings that you’d like to share with me, please contact me. If you like these emails, feel free to share them with other coaches, friends, clients and people walking the transformational path.
See you again in two weeks,