It’s time for another installment of my bi-weekly email series. In each issue, I share three resources that I have found to be helpful for myself and/or my clients. As a former librarian and a current voracious gatherer of helpful information, I’m constantly listening to podcasts, reading books and articles, and watching various videos that spark my interest.
Although these three resources seem to share nothing in common, when I looked deeper I found that empathy and compassion underlie all three of these resources. They also note what happens when empathy and compassion are not at the root of our shared experiences.
Dylan Marron’s podcast, “Conversations With People Who Hate Me” is unlike any other podcast that I’ve heard. As a social justice writer and video maker, Dylan receives a lot of negative feedback and hateful comments from people who communicate with him on the Internet. He brilliantly decided to follow up on the question that everyone who has been trolled asks themselves, “Why?” and courageously calls people who have been mean to him. Taking the conversation offline is fascinating. Dylan’s curiosity and kindness allows the trolls to reveal themselves as complex people who hide behind their trolling comments while at the same time showing the depth of Dylan’s humanity and courage. Check it out. Here’s a link to Dylan’s web site and a link to the first episode of his podcast. Warning: Profanity is spoken during the podcast. h/t Chris Duffy
I can’t recommend Nassim Nicholas Taleb’s “Skin In The Game: Hidden Asymmetries in Daily Life” enough. If I had my way, I would force everyone to read it precisely because it provides such an excellent explanation of the dynamics that are at the root of most of the suffering and danger in our culture right now. Understanding these dynamics can also lead to their cure. It comes down to the simple notion that if you suggest or demand that people do something risky, you share in that risk yourself. Without sharing the risk, there is little opportunity for true safety, nor is there learning on the part of the person creating the risk when they fail. So many aspects of our social and cultural breakdown of late can be traced to this inequitable division of risk. The assumption of shared risk was a given throughout history. However, in the 21st Century, corporations, plutocrats, bureaucrats, and others who wield inordinate power are not willing to share the risks that their behaviors and policies engender. Let us start to reclaim our power by reasserting the practice of shared risk. In the spirit of full disclosure and owning my part in creating the risk that you might not find the book worthwhile, I haven’t finished the book yet. But even if you only read the prologue to the main chapters of the book, you will benefit from seeing the world in a completely different way. h/t Carly Ebenstein
I don’t often go to the movies since it’s hard for me to hear in a movie theater. However, closed captioning machines have made movie going much more enjoyable of late, as I now know what people are saying on the screen! I went to see “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?” the other night and I highly recommend it. I was too old to watch it as a young child, and then too hip to take it too seriously in my young adulthood. However, decades of inner work, and yearning for the world that Fred Rogers hoped to instill in every child he met, allowed me to appreciate the genius and rarity of a man like Fred Rogers. The cynical among us may believe that he was too good to be true and seek to tarnish his legacy in many different ways. However, one of the main gifts that Fred Rogers offers everyone is to portray a version of masculinity that is virile in lovingkindness, steadfast in presence and powerful as a voice for those who need to be protected and nurtured. Give yourself a gift. Go see the movie and let MisterRogers talk to your heart and your soul. You’ll be thankful you did.
An Experiential Learning Opportunity:
For the ICF Certified coaches on this email list, I’m thrilled to let you know that The Wisdom Tree Academy is once again offering our signature online training class, “Decoding The Coaching Genome.” It is an in-depth experiential dive into each one of the eleven Core Coaching Competencies deemed necessary to demonstrate by the International Coach Federation in order to receive one of their three coaching certifications. We are certified by the ICF to offer you 24 Core Competency Credits which is the total amount of Core Competency Credits you need to renew your ICF Coaching Certification. I will be co-facilitating this class with the wonderful Craig Howe. The class starts on September 20, 2018 at from noon to 1:30 pm Pacific. For more information, go to http://thewisdomtree.academy/en/courses/decodingthecoachinggenome/. If you have any questions feel free to contact me. I look forward to playing with you. And we will play! The class is quite fun!
Thanks for taking the time to read this newsletter. If any of these resources elicited any thoughts or feelings that you’d like to share with me, please contact me. If you like these emails, feel free to share them with other coaches, friends, clients and people walking the transformational path.
See you in two weeks,