I’m excited to share these resources that might be of help to you in your life. As you probably know, I’m addicted to reading books and articles as well as listening to podcasts and watching online videos.
People periodically ask me for book recommendations and fun or educational podcasts. Rather than sending my recommendations to just a few people at a time, I thought it would be both fun and helpful to share these resources with all of my colleagues and friends.
Here’s what’s grabbed my attention this week.
To quote Dacher Keltner of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, “Can 36 questions really make two people fall in love? Can 36 questions help couples stay in love?”
It turns out that these questions definitely create intimacy in ways that other conversations with partners or new people in our lives do not.
What I love about this particular podcast episode is that it speaks to the naturally attractive quality of focused listening and the practice of curiosity. In the first half of the podcast, author Kelly Corrigan talks about her experience of using the 36 questions to feel closer to her husband. In the second half of the podcast, Keltner talks with psychologist Rudy Mendoza Denton about the science behind the questionnaire and why it works.
I assume that like me, you’ve experienced your share of working with or living with dysfunctional groups of people. Numerous people have written about the causes of these horrendous experiences. Daniel Coyle’s “The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups” instead focuses on what makes for successful group experiences.
While I was reading the book, I thought these practices were obvious. However, in reality, the obvious often eludes us. The three main components of a successful group experience are: create safety, share vulnerability and finally, establish a group purpose. Coyle writes about each of these practices in an engaging manner and equally importantly, points out not only the obvious ways that they played out in the groups that he studied but the more subtle and nuanced ways as well.
“Why Do We Ask Questions?”
Anyone who is a coach will likely appreciate Michael “VSauce” Stevens’ approach to life. He’s funny and he’s addictively inquisitive. Not only does he love asking questions, he’s equally into providing people with explanations.
Granted, as coaches we are not tasked with providing explanations but everyone loves a good explanation. Helping clients find their own explanations to the powerful questions we ask, is one of the hallmarks of great coaching. Have fun watching this video. Hopefully you’ll end up as passionate about questions and learning as Michael is!
So what do all of the above have in common?
You might have guessed it already – the art of asking powerful questions within the intimate dynamics of a group.
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