In each each issue of this bi-weekly email series, I share three resources that I have found to be helpful for myself and/or my clients. As a former librarian and a current voracious gatherer of helpful information, I’m constantly listening to podcasts, reading books and articles, and watching various videos that spark my interest.
Fortunately, lots of different subjects regularly grab my attention so I will be sharing resources that both directly and indirectly apply to coaching and to the work of transformation. And I hope you will enjoy them as much as I do!
Here’s what’s grabbed my attention this week.
“Invisibilia” is probably my favorite podcast on the air right now. This episode which debuted in 2016, grabs me as much as it did the first time I listened to it two years ago. It focuses on people with Asperger’s Syndrome and the frame through which they view the world.
Unable to read social cues in the way that neurotypical people do, they misunderstand a great deal of the nonverbal communication that we all engage in during every human interaction. This is upsetting for both people participating in the conversation since neither is fluent in the other’s communication. This episode gave me great insight and empathy for people who do not respond in neurotypical ways.
What is coaching about if not helping people make changes in their lives? “Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Success” by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny and David Mayfield help set the contexts for engaging in successful change and most importantly offer six powerful sources of influence that will support you while you make your desired changes.
One of their suggested sources of influence is to learn the skills necessary to make the change rather than assuming that your character is to blame for your failure to sustain change. Deliberately practicing the necessary skill goes a long way supporting long-term change.
As a late deafened adult who was implanted with cochlear implants after I lost most of my hearing, I learned a lot about listening when I had to relearn how to listen via my cochlear implants. As you know, being a powerful coach is predicated upon being a good listener. However, until I lost my hearing and had to learn how to listen to conversation and all manner of other sounds once again, I never realized how deaf I had truly been before I actually lost my hearing. William Ury’s TEDx Talk, “The Power of Listening” eloquently speaks to necessity of listening as communication tool.
As you listen to what he has to say, notice what you’re paying attention to as he speaks. Are you truly listening to him or paying attention to your own inner dialogue? Listening, really listening to yourself and others will make a profound change in your life. I know it has in mine.
Thanks for taking the time to read this newsletter. If any of these resources elicited any thoughts or feelings that you’d like to share with me, please contact me. If you like these emails, feel free to share with other coaches, friends, clients, and people walking the transformational path.
See you in two weeks,